Sunday, April 22, 2007
The GOOD news is - both Joyce and I guessed correctly - Snickers!
We are so blessed by our awesome friends. Thank you to all who were a part of blessing Mia and our family through the baby shower. Thank you Carolyn for planning the shower and being such an "entertaining" hostess!
By the way - Macy was in hog heaven with her gifts from the shower. She now gets to "Dr." every toy in the house. She was taking Mommy's temperature last night...and said..."Yep, you have a temper...you need a shot!" (Trying to say temperature!) ;)
Friday, April 20, 2007
This post is for Tay Tay!!! :)
Thursday, April 19, 2007
Abandoned at a Restaurant Gate...
Her story begins in the south of China.
In China, the most populous land on earth, the government allows couples to have but one child. Baby Zi Zhen (her orphanage name) was born female into a culture where sons are more highly valued than daughters.
Boys are raised to head households and provide for the family. Daughters are raised to marry young and care for their in-laws.
There, Mia was abandoned at a restaurant gate. The police were notified and picked her up. They noted that she was only a few hours old. Whoever left her there, out of fear, or shame, or desperation, or panic, wanted Mia to live and gave her a chance at life. It is illegal to abandon babies in China, a punishable offense that is rarely enforced. Sometimes the abandoned babies show up in the most unlikely places, such as vegetable bins in outdoor markets.
More often, they are placed anonymously at not-so-secret drop spots, where caring individuals scoop them up and deliver them to orphanages.
There is no way to know how hungry or distressed Mia was when she was discovered and taken to the orphanage. But this we know: She was tiny, resilient and well cared for by the time she was put up for adoption.
After more than two years of adoption paperwork and waiting, Brad & Glenda McMath received "the call" that Mia would be theirs. They had already decided to name her "Mia", which means "my girl". God has chosen 2 girls, Macy-now age 4, and now Mia to be daughters in this family. One by birth. One by adoption. Both completly chosen by God to be "McMaths".
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
This is me and Macy running out the door for church on Sunday. She is carrying 2 Bibles, Dora dominoes, and of course...her favorite....lip gloss.
I'm already late for Sunday School since having Macy (thank you to my class - you wait patiently...and to Dallas for making our caffeine loaded Hazelnut Vanilla coffee!) -what am I going to do when I have Macy AND Mia?? I hope I make it in time for the dismissal bell! :)
Sunday, April 15, 2007
OK - the scanner gun might look exciting. But a cart overflowing with diapers for a shower.....come on! I would have called my life chaotic! It's made me stop and think - what kind of life must she have to think a registry scanner gun and being the point shopper for a shower - is an exciting life? I guess I should be more thankful for my chaos if someone finds it "exciting".
Saturday, April 14, 2007
I was actually the one getting excited when she saw me b/c I was registering for those boxes of flavored tea where you just add a packet to a bottle of water - and discovered they have a brand that is caffeine enhanced called morning spark - you just add a packet to a bottle of water and have cranberry or orange drink....with caffeine! Woo hoooo! I was excited and thinking...how many of these can I fit in my suitcase? I've heard diet coke is hard to come by in China!
I have to wonder if security is watching thru the little cameras in the ceiling bubbles. What do they think when they see someone like me carring around a baby registry gun and scanning drugs from pharmacy, caffeine drink mixes, etc....!!! I'm surprised they didn't bring me in for questioning! Good think I wasn't registering for Sudafed or they might have suspected me to be running one of the local meth labs! ;) Whewww, what an adventure this was!
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
1. That Mia will BOND quickly with us. She has been institutionalized for all of her 7 months - and many babies struggle with bonding and attachment disorder. We believe God can go ahead of us and prepare her for our family!
2. Pray for all 7 families that are adopting our babies from the same orphanage in Yang Xi. Pray that their daughters will bond and attach with their families quickly. The 7 baby girl's names are: Mia McMath (ours!), Kylee Oswald, Faith Rathjen, Jessica Morris, Jenna Holcomb, Maddie Cardwell, and Annie Copeland. Please call out the name of our girls to God asking for protection, health, & bonding.
3. Pray that Macy will embrace her role as big sister and have an incredible God-given bond with her new baby sister!
4. Pray for Brad, Glenda, Macy, Dorinda, and baby Mia that we will all stay healthy during our stay in China. Many travelers struggle with illness and we need God's blessing of health while we are there!
5. Pray for the LONG flights! Pray that Macy and Mia will both be peaceful and happy while traveling!
6. Pray for God's provision - He's gotten us this far- pray that He will provide for everything else down to the last penny! We are not sure yet how much our travel is costing - hoping we can stretch every dime to cover it all! With God all things are possible!
7. Pray for God's favor in everything we do while there. We want to pray now for favor - in case we face any unforeseen circumstances while in China!
Remember we will be keeping this blog posted with journal entries and pictures every day we are in China...so join us on the...Journey to Mia!
Sunday, April 8, 2007
I processed my orphanage research so well when reading about it the last couple of years... But when it became personal - and it was "my" baby...I reacted differently than I thought I would. Guess it is that protective mode kicking in! :)
Friday, April 6, 2007
Now I am so glad that she will be going with us to China. She will share in this experience of our family growing. I think she will even be a good distraction for Mia if she's discontent. Of course Brad and I will have "Noni" along for great help too! That will make a BIG difference!
Guangzhou, the South Gate of China, is a prosperous metropolis full of vigor.Guangzhou is the capital city of Guangdong, and the center of its political, economic, scientific, educational and cultural life.
Guangzhou is located in the middle south of Guangdong Province, north of the Pearl River Delta. It lies close to the South China Sea, Hong Kong, and Macau. Zhujiang (The Pearl River), the third largest river of China, runs through Guangzhou and is navigable to the South China Sea. Situated in such an excellent geographical region, Guangzhou is called China’s South Gate.Guangzhou is home to more than 11 million people, including a 3.7 million transitory population. WOW! I THINK THE TOTAL POPULATION FOR THE STATE OF ARKANSAS IS JUST UNDER 3 MILLION!
That information was really hard for me to take in. My baby. Left at the gate of a restaurant just hours after she was born. Then spending the first day of her life at a police station. It makes me want to break down just thinking about it again. HOWEVER....I have embraced the fact that it was because of this abandonment...that she could be mine. And I rejoice that God has chosen us to be her family. And I am humbled that He has given us the opportunity to give her the same great love that He has given to us as His adopted children. Thank God for the BEAUTY of adoption.
Brad thinks he will have his video camera glued to his head while we are in China. Mr. Aspiring Video/Movie Man...he plans to make a documentary of our trip. He is so gifted in that area! One of our missionaries wanted us to "jet" over to the Phillipines while in China and have Brad meet with the Asia Pacific Media Ministry. Yeah right! Who cares about anything but getting our precious baby! :)
My mom will also be traveling with us to China. What a blessing that will be with having 2 girls on the 14 hour flight home! "Noni" already has a grandma bag packed for the plane ride over with Macy. I'm anxious to see what all distractions she has in her bag of tricks!
Tuesday, April 3, 2007
We decided a long time ago to name our baby "Mia". Her name means: my girl. We want her to always know that we chose her.
Mia's name in the orphanage is YangXi Zi Zhen. YangXi is the name of the orphanage and all of the babies there have the same "last name." We received pictures and her medical report via Fed-Ex the next day.
Even though it has been hard - there has been a peace deep within me that I can not explain. I KNOW God has this all planned out. The reason we are having to wait so long is so that we are matched with the PERFECT child that He has for us. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Being pastors and having an active 3 year old help time to pass too! Between the church and having a preschooler - I stay pretty busy!
After waiting 17 months - we finally got our BIG CALL!
After a little over 8 months of paper "chasing" ...literally....our "Dossier" (the final packet of paperwork) was logged in at China on October 19, 2005! The average wait to be matched with a baby was 7 months at the time.
April 5, 2005
I cannot wait to get you home and hold you close. You are my sweetie, my girl, and I love you so already. Today God provided the miracle we needed to take away the huge pressure that goes with the expenses of getting you here. My biological father, Glen, had a life insurance policy that left me money upon his death. We really did not think that it would go through – but had hoped and prayed for a miracle. It seemed providential that this might come through during the time we are pursuing adoption. What is so unique - is that since I was adopted 15 years ago I can count on one hand how many times I have seen him. I was so surprised that he would think to do an insurance policy that would cover his burial expenses and have a little left over.
I was praying on my way home today and asked God to help me remember that He is in control. We still hadn’t heard anything about this insurance money.
Then tonight as I was rummaging through the mail – I saw it. I nervously opened the letter and then began to shake as I realized what it was. It was a check for what was left from the insurance policy after the burial expenses! It was almost exactly what we needed for the rest of our adoption expenses! I immediately called your Dad and told him we had our miracle. While shaking and about to breakdown and cry – I told him God had provided – and that I knew that He was confirming that He has indeed destined for you to be our daughter – and make a way when there seemed to be no way.
I then drove to Carolyn and Mark’s house to show them the check. As Carolyn realized what it was – I began to cry. I told her I had all but given up on this and was wondering how else God was going to do it. It seems I always have to try and figure things out. This time God floored me with his miracle. I have no doubt that it was God that prompted Glen to do this. God was making a way for you to be part of our family! People have always asked us how we were going to pay the expenses associated with international adoption, especially on a pastor's salary - and I have ALWAYS said - I have no idea - but I believe God will provide. I had begun to doubt these last few months....but...WOW. I'm speechless at His awesome love.
God loves a little girl in China who needs a family – and has picked us to be that family. We are so blessed and so excited for you to be a part of our family.
Every night we pray as a family; your Daddy, your sister Macy, and me, your Mommy. We pray for you that God will protect you until we get to you. We love you so much already. Me and Macy talk about when her baby sister comes home and I think she is starting to grasp it a little. (She just turned two in January).
We are working on picking out a name for you. Right now the leaders are Mia, Maya, Jasmine, Marissa, and Makynna. I really like Mia b/c of it’s meaning: girl of mine. That so describes how my heart feels about you, sweetie.
My pregnancy was TERRIBLE - I threw up every day multiple times for 4 months. Then I had gestational diabetes. Then I had inflamed nerves in my legs and couldn't walk....and on and on. After I had her I was badly anemic and didn't feel healthy enough to take care of her. It was the roughest year of my life. I thought my life was over and that life would never be the same again. :) I was wrong. I did survive. And the child inside of me that brought me so much sickness - has brought my life so much joy!
Brad reminded me this week of how he thought I had lost my mind when I was pregnant! I would watch "Mulan" while I was on bedrest and sob my eyes out b/c of my longing for this chinese child God was implanting in my heart! And I hardly ever cry!